How long has it been since the love of your life’s funeral? If it hasn’t been several years, ease up on yourself.

How can you move beyond the shock of being called a widow? 

  • Look in the mirror and say out loud, “I am a widow.” Say it again several times until it begins to sink in. “I am a widow.” Do it several times a day until the word doesn’t unnerve you.
  • Grab a journal or a notebook and start writing down all the happy times you can remember that you enjoyed with your husband. Write and write.
  • Thank the Lord for each blessing you’ve written down.
  • Look around for a needy person, pray and plan how you can better their situation. Execute your plan.
  • As often as you feel you can handle it, repeat the above project.

Maybe you are thinking, Joyce that sounds so cut and dried, and perhaps it is. But dodging the issue of grief and pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t work. It simply puts off the inevitable and stalls happiness. Accepting the fact that our life is taking a new direction whether we approve or not, makes us take baby steps forward, and helps our mind accept what our heart refuses.

Blessings and hugs dear widowed friend.

“So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom” (Psalm 90:12).